The Power of Self Belief-6 Ways to Build Your Self Confidence
The Power of Self Belief – 6 Ways to Build Your Self Confidence
”I Can Do All Things Through Christ Who Strengthens Me” – Philippians 4:13
I want to share a little bit of my story about how I managed to develop the power of self belief. When I started working here in Singapore as a CAD Engineer coming from my home country, the Philippines, I encountered lots of challenges at work. I was actually hired because of my excellent skills in using 3D mechanical modeling software even though I had no background in marine engineering or naval architecture field.
So one time I was task to do a 2D structural engineering layout that does not require me to use the 3D CAD (Computer Aided Drafting) tool. I used different drafting software that I have less experienced with. I had to do an offshore mechanical structural layout that I was not familiar with. And as expected, I received corrections after corrections about what I have done in creating my 2D engineering layout. You can imagine how colorful my A3 sized print outs due to corrections. Here’s the sad part, the senior colleague(s) who reviewed my drawing doesn’t bother to teach me about the way to improve or speed up the process of learning the skills even when I asked them. All they can tell is how slow I am and all the negative stuffs. At that point I had two choices, whether to equate them with harsh words so that I can bring my ego back or just simply go back to my table and do what I need to do. I chose the later since I was relatively new to the company and Singapore, so I don’t want to risk my job.
Here’s how I exactly responded that changed the way I looked at things and my attitude. Instead of bursting out the fire against them, I psyched myself up while performing my task. I kept on telling in my mind, “I am the best in what I am doing! I am the fastest in performing this task!” I repeat the phrase “I am the best!” with high emotions all over and over again while I was doing the corrections. I practiced these affirmations every time I worked on my projects. It was just a matter of time when I came for another review process when the senior colleague told me,” Whoa, you’re so fast huh!” I gave him a smile and from then on, I managed to develop my skills and most especially my attitude. My self esteem went high.
By the way, I want to share with you a success story video presented to our company by our supplier, Innocom Technologies Pte. Ltd. Please check it out.
Here are some 6 rules that will help you build up your self confidence:
- Create a mental picture of yourself succeeding. Hold on to this picture tenaciously. Never permit it to fade. Your mind always tries to complete whatever it pictures so, always picture success no matter how badly things seemed to be going at the moment. Whenever a negative thought concerning your personal powers come into mind, deliberately voice out a positive thought to cancel it out.
- Do not build up obstacles in your imagination. Minimize them instead. Problems should be seen for what they are and never inflated by fearful thoughts. You are bigger than your problems.
- Do not be awestruck by other people or try to copy them. Remember that most people despite a confident appearance are often as scared and as doubtful of themselves as you are.
- Get a confident counselor to help you understand the origin of your inferiority or self doubt feelings. This often begins in childhood. Self knowledge leads to a cure.
- Ten times each day practice the following affirmation. Repeating it out loud if possible. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” This magic statement is the most powerful antidote on earth to inferiority feelings.
- Put yourself in God’s hands. To do this you simply say “I am in God’s hands” then believe that you are now receiving all the power you need. Affirm that the kingdom of God is within you in the form of adequate power to meet all of life’s demands. Remind yourself that God is with you and nothing can defeat Him.
I encouraged you to read the book, “The Power of Positive Thinking” by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale and “The Psychology of Achievement” by Brian Tracy. I took Brian Tracy’s advice to look in front of the mirror and tell out loud “I like myself” over and over again. It worked for me and I’m sure it will work for you as well. Try it and share with me your success.
Please check out previous article on Persuasive Communication – The Art of Moving People Through To Action. I shared my experience on self belief in front of an audience.
Please listen to Chapter 1 of The Power of Positive Thinking below.